For a woman, one of the best parts of being pregnant is when she gets to share the happy news with her lover.
The problem is that men aren’t always so enthusiastic about pregnancies, especially if the woman in question is just a girlfriend or friend with benefits and not an official wife. Pregnancies scare men and as a result, we tend to react in the most blunderous ways.
It’s important to understand that the woman did not make the baby alone. No matter how shocked you are, avoid saying the wrong thing. But wait…what’s the wrong thing to say?
Here are some classic examples:
1. Is it mine?
Well, if she told you she’s pregnant, it means it’s yours. Or who else do you think it belongs to? Do you think Angel Gabriel visited her and so she’s going to give birth Jesus 2.0?
2. Are you sure?
Of course, she’s sure. Women don’t just guess pregnancies. She must have taken a test and that means she’s sure. What do you mean when you ask “Are you sure?”
Don’t pretend to be deaf my brother. You heard her well. You munched the goodies without wrapping it up and you knew the potential consequences.
4. How did that happen?
It happened when you got her naked and had intercourse. Then your sperms swam to her egg and fertilization took place. Or do you need to go back to class and learn how the human reproductive system works?
5. What are you going to do?
Why make it seem like it’s her problem? This shows how much you lack a sense of responsibility. It’s not about her. It’s about the both of you.
6. You should get an abortion.
Ah ah. Abortions are not legal in most African countries and that means there are no safe ways to do it. Most abortions are done by quacks. Don’t make a woman take health risks for your own selfish reasons.
7. I am so shocked right now.
A pregnancy announcement should make you happy, not shocked. Be happy that you are about to be a daddy. Look on the bright side. Be happy that you’ll have a mini-you crawling around in a few months time.
8. And lastly….not saying anything.
Silence is the worst. It leaves a woman regretting everything she ever did with you. Don’t be like that. You are better than that. There are many things you can say even if you don’t mean them. One such example is “Wow! I am so happy beb.” Simple.