Unfortunately, wanting a serious relationship and being ready for one are two very different things.
Although sometimes we think we’re really ready, our minds and hearts betray us when we realize we’re pushing our partners (and the relationship) away through certain actions.
However to make sure you don’t sabotage any future relationships, here are 7 signs you’re not ready for a relationship like you think you are:
1. Your constantly fantasizing about Mr/Miss Right.
You find yourself imagining about a prince charming or princess who will come and sweep you off your feet. However, life isn’t a fairy tale and it takes a bit of work to find Mr/MissRight, you may have to kiss a few frogs until you realize what a good man is for you.
2. You have a mindset of ‘forever’
If you have a mentality of being with someone forever then stop. It’s good to imagine that you can enjoy undying love for someone like in the movies, but in reality it takes much more work to tolerate someone for a lifetime.
3. You love the idea of love.
You like the happy feeling when you first get to know someone, however you’re not so good at maintaining the relationship.
4. You expect the love of your life to find you suddenly.
You think you’ll just one day bump into the love of your life and everything will fall into place. Unfortunately, to find your bae you need to go out there and mingle. Don’t sit in your room expecting him/her to knock on your door.
5. Your selfish.
It’s a good and a bad thing to be selfish. However a relationship is about sacrifice and compromise. If you aren’t willing to do that, then you’re not ready to be in a relationship.
6. You’re closed off.
If you’re overly conservative, you may not be too happy having someone whose constantly trying to get your attention. Plus the relationship won’t last too long if you don’t like expressing your feelings.
7. You don’t love yourself/You’re not happy
Basically you need to love yourself first before anyone can love you. You can’t put the burden on anyone to make you happy. Whether it’s a certain behavior you need to stop, focus on it, before anyone else comes in the picture. If you have certain insecurities, deal with them first.